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From: Bill Nibz 1. You have sent a letter to me through the hand of a "friend" of yours, as
+ you call him. And in your very next sentence you warn me not to discuss with
+ him all the matters that concern you, saying that even you yourself are not
+ accustomed to do this; in other words, you have in the same letter affirmed
+ and denied that he is your friend. 2. Now if you used this word of ours in
+ the popular sense, and called him "friend" in the same way in which we speak
+ of all candidates for election as "honourable gentlemen," and as we greet
+ all men whom we meet casually, if their names slip us for the moment, with
+ the salutation "my dear sir," – so be it. But if you consider any man a
+ friend whom you do not trust as you trust yourself, you are mightily
+ mistaken and you do not sufficiently understand what true friendship means.
+ Indeed, I would have you discuss everything with a friend; but first of all
+ discuss the man himself. When friendship is settled, you must trust; before
+ friendship is formed, you must pass judgment. Those persons indeed put last
+ first and confound their duties, who, violating the rules of Theophrastus,
+ judge a man after they have made him their friend, instead of making him
+ their friend after they have judged him. Ponder for a long time whether you
+ shall admit a given person to your friendship; but when you have decided to
+ admit him, welcome him with all your heart and soul. Speak as boldly with
+ him as with yourself. 3. As to yourself, although you should live in such a
+ way that you trust your own self with nothing which you could not entrust
+ even to your enemy, yet, since certain matters occur which convention keeps
+ secret, you should share with a friend at least all your worries and
+ reflections. Regard him as loyal, and you will make him loyal. Some, for
+ example, fearing to be deceived, have taught men to deceive; by their
+ suspicions they have given their friend the right to do wrong. Why need I
+ keep back any words in the presence of my friend? Why should I not regard
+ myself as alone when in his company? 4. There is a class of men who communicate, to anyone whom they meet, matters
+ which should be revealed to friends alone, and unload upon the chance
+ listener whatever irks them. Others, again, fear to confide in their closest
+ intimates; and if it were possible, they would not trust even themselves,
+ burying their secrets deep in their hearts. But we should do neither. It is
+ equally faulty to trust everyone and to trust no one. Yet the former fault
+ is, I should say, the more ingenuous, the latter the more safe. 5. In like
+ manner you should rebuke these two kinds of men, – both those who always
+ lack repose, and those who are always in repose. For love of bustle is not
+ industry, – it is only the restlessness of a hunted mind. And true repose
+ does not consist in condemning all motion as merely vexation; that kind of
+ repose is slackness and inertia. 6. Therefore, you should note the
+ following saying, taken from my reading in Pomponius: "Some men shrink into
+ dark corners, to such a degree that they see darkly by day." No, men should
+ combine these tendencies, and he who reposes should act and he who acts
+ should take repose. Discuss the problem with Nature; she will tell you that
+ she has created both day and night. Farewell. In this letter I take away two themes: one of friendship, and one of
+ discussions. Of friendship, I think Seneca's definition sets a high bar,
+ though rightfully so. A friend (perhaps a "true friend", considering
+ Facebook et al) is one you can confide in without restriction, except for
+ the most tightly held of secrets. I can personally count the number of
+ people I could call this type of friend on one hand. To Seneca, as with me,
+ friend is an honorable position. In today's social-media-fueled world, I find that the term "friend" resonates
+ much closer to Seneca's sick burn: "friend" in the same way in which we
+ speak of all candidates for election as "honorable gentlemen." Perhaps,
+ though, there's a bit of syntactic significance here. To the Stoics, the
+ importance of community and brotherhood is found throughout. Marcus Aurelius
+ has a famous quote about it, as masterfully illustrated by the great Gavin
+ at Zen Pencils: [ Link
+ ]. I think it safe to say we should be friendly and helpful to all we meet,
+ whereas to welcome one as a friend is a significant event, and one which
+ requires careful consideration. The second theme, discussion, is only touched on but I think is significant
+ enough to warrant attention. Seneca mentions the importance of moderation in
+ trust and discussion with others. Do not share freely and constantly, and
+ also do not withdraw within yourself too far. I think here we see a
+ blueprint for discussion with others. To borrow from Marcus, we are all
+ brothers, and in that sense we should be comfortable discussing common
+ matters. However, it is only with friends that we should be comfortable
+ discussing more personal matters, and even then we must be considerate. Once
+ again, our social-media-centric world finds many of us sharing freely into a
+ void we do not recognize as a crowd. Many would do well to remember: social
+ media is not empty! There are those who greedily capture every word you give
+ freely, like a stray animal to a buffet. Judge well what you decide to
+ share, for likely it is not with "true friends" that the message solely
+ goes. Reflecting on this letter made me carefully evaluate my friendships. I rarely
+ have difficulty with people, though admittedly I take time to "warm up" to
+ them. In terms of discussions, I don't find much to be beyond common topics.
+ In that sense, I think I am a bit too loose-lipped, though perhaps not as
+ much as I think. However, I do know that it is a small group with which I
+ confide the most personal challenges or achievements I have made. And, as
+ Seneca does suggest, I do not allow entry into this group lightly!
+ Moral Letters to Lucilius, Letter 3 on Wikisource
+ 1. Keep on as you have begun, and make all possible haste, so that you may
+ have longer enjoyment of an improved mind, one that is at peace with itself.
+ Doubtless you will derive enjoyment during the time when you are improving
+ your mind and setting it at peace with itself; but quite different is the
+ pleasure which comes from contemplation when one's mind is so cleansed from
+ every stain that it shines. 2. You remember, of course, what joy you felt
+ when you laid aside the garments of boyhood and donned the man's toga, and
+ were escorted to the forum; nevertheless, you may look for a still greater
+ joy when you have laid aside the mind of boyhood and when wisdom has
+ enrolled you among men. For it is not boyhood that still stays with us, but
+ something worse, – boyishness. And this condition is all the more serious
+ because we possess the authority of old age, together with the follies of
+ boyhood, yea, even the follies of infancy. Boys fear trifles, children fear
+ shadows, we fear both. 3. All you need to do is to advance; you will thus understand that some
+ things are less to be dreaded, precisely because they inspire us with great
+ fear. No evil is great which is the last evil of all. Death arrives; it
+ would be a thing to dread, if it could remain with you. But death must
+ either not come at all, or else must come and pass away. 4. "It is difficult, however," you say, "to bring the mind to a point where
+ it can scorn life." But do you not see what trifling reasons impel men to
+ scorn life? One hangs himself before the door of his mistress; another hurls
+ himself from the house-top that he may no longer be compelled to bear the
+ taunts of a bad-tempered master; a third, to be saved from arrest after
+ running away, drives a sword into his vitals. Do you not suppose that virtue
+ will be as efficacious as excessive fear? No man can have a peaceful life
+ who thinks too much about lengthening it, or believes that living through
+ many consulships is a great blessing. 5. Rehearse this thought every day,
+ that you may be able to depart from life contentedly; for many men clutch
+ and cling to life, even as those who are carried down a rushing stream
+ clutch and cling to briars and sharp rocks. Most men ebb and flow in wretchedness between the fear of death and the
+ hardships of life; they are unwilling to live, and yet they do not know how
+ to die. 6. For this reason, make life as a whole agreeable to yourself by
+ banishing all worry about it. No good thing renders its possessor happy,
+ unless his mind is reconciled to the possibility of loss; nothing, however,
+ is lost with less discomfort than that which, when lost, cannot be missed.
+ Therefore, encourage and toughen your spirit against the mishaps that
+ afflict even the most powerful. 7. For example, the fate of Pompey was
+ settled by a boy and a eunuch, that of Crassus by a cruel and insolent
+ Parthian. Gaius Caesar ordered Lepidus to bare his neck for the axe of the
+ tribune Dexter; and he himself offered his own throat to Chaerea.[1] No man
+ has ever been so far advanced by Fortune that she did not threaten him as
+ greatly as she had previously indulged him. Do not trust her seeming calm;
+ in a moment the sea is moved to its depths. The very day the ships have made
+ a brave show in the games, they are engulfed. 8. Reflect that a highwayman
+ or an enemy may cut your throat; and, though he is not your master, every
+ slave wields the power of life and death over you. Therefore I declare to
+ you: he is lord of your life that scorns his own. Think of those who have
+ perished through plots in their own home, slain either openly or by guile;
+ you will that just as many have been killed by angry slaves as by angry
+ kings. What matter, therefore, how powerful he be whom you fear, when every
+ one possesses the power which inspires your fear? 9. "But," you will say,
+ "if you should chance to fall into the hands of the enemy, the conqueror
+ will command that you be led away," – yes, whither you are already being
+ led.[2] Why do you voluntarily deceive yourself and require to be told now
+ for the first time what fate it is that you have long been labouring under?
+ Take my word for it: since the day you were born you are being led thither.
+ We must ponder this thought, and thoughts of the like nature, if we desire
+ to be calm as we await that last hour, the fear of which makes all previous
+ hours uneasy. 10. But I must end my letter. Let me share with you the saying which pleased
+ me to-day. It, too, is culled from another man's Garden:[3] "Poverty brought
+ into conformity with the law of nature, is great wealth." Do you know what
+ limits that law of nature ordains for us? Merely to avert hunger, thirst,
+ and cold. In order to banish hunger and thirst, it is not necessary for you
+ to pay court at the doors of the purse-proud, or to submit to the stern
+ frown, or to the kindness that humiliates; nor is it necessary for you to
+ scour the seas, or go campaigning; nature's needs are easily provided and
+ ready to hand. 11. It is the superfluous things for which men sweat, – the
+ superfluous things that wear our togas threadbare, that force us to grow old
+ in camp, that dash us upon foreign shores. That which is enough is ready to
+ our hands. He who has made a fair compact with poverty is rich.
+ Farewell. Letter 4 is the first letter I ever read by Seneca. I read it during a time
+ of anxiety and stress, appropriately enough about my health and life.
+ Every time I read this letter, I am reminded of why I like Stoicism. During
+ the worst of my anxiety, I considered other avenues to find respite.
+ Religion, distractions, drugs. None seemed complete; all held a catch.
+ Religion asked me to put my faith in gods, to trust that which I cannot
+ know. Distractions, though myriad, always ended with me back in reality. And
+ as bad as my anxiety was, I'm not willing to subject myself to any degree of
+ drugs unless absolutely necessary. Time and again, I found myself back at
+ Stoicism. Whether it be the teachings of Epictetus or these letters, the
+ teachings within gave me inspiration. Letter 4 deals with the fear of death, a fear I am all too familiar with.
+ Though, to my credit, I don't think I'm alone in this fear. Seneca
+ emphasizes the importance of overcoming this fear, as only a mind free from
+ fear can be truly at peace. It is not enough to just renounce the fear
+ though, you must conquer it. Like invaders at a gate, it will return in force,
+ and each time you must defeat it. Fear is a constant companion, but it need
+ not be a constant nuisance. To me, overcoming fear means learning, and
+ understanding. I like to define fear as a lack of knowledge. We fear the
+ darkness, because we know not what it holds, not because of the inherent
+ qualities of darkness. To conquer fear is to learn, and grow, and improve,
+ relentlessly. Overcome the ignorance, and recognize what is real. As Seneca
+ reminds us, old age is not a cure for ignorance, but rather an extension:
+ "Boys fear trifles, children fear shadows, we fear both." It is not enough
+ to grow old, for adults are just larger children. We must mature in mind as
+ well as body. Death is the great equalizer. Whether a king or a beggar, death comes for
+ all. To live is inevitably to die; when may be unknown, but it is certain to
+ come. An Onion article once said it best: "World Death Rate Holding Steady
+ at 100 Percent." The Stoics are quick to remind us it is fruitless to
+ concern ourselves with something outside our control, and death is no
+ exception. Seneca is quick with examples: the highwayman or another enemy;
+ your slave or your king; Nature itself.
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+ Moral Letters to Lucilius, Letter 4 on Wikisource
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+ The Onion, "World Death Rate Holding Steady at 100 Percent"
+Letter 3: On True and False Friendship
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+Original Text
+Response
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+Source
+Letter 4: On the Terrors of Death
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+Original Text
+Response
+- Fear of death, fear of dying, etc..
+- The importance of the acceptance of death as a natural, inevitable part of life
+- The importance of living each day as virtuously as possible
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+Source
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Letter 4 is the first letter I ever read by Seneca. I read it during a time of anxiety and stress, appropriately enough about my health and life. @@ -129,7 +126,21 @@ at 100 Percent." The Stoics are quick to remind us it is fruitless to concern ourselves with something outside our control, and death is no exception. Seneca is quick with examples: the highwayman or another enemy; - your slave or your king; Nature itself. + your slave or your king; Nature itself. Accepting that death is the natural + progress of life, and that it is outside our control, is paramount to living + a life free of fear.
+ +Finally, the quote at the end. Once more, I feel the quote is unrelated but + welcomed. Another suggestion towards minimalist living. Epicurus has a lot + of good advice! This quote emphasizes the importance of recognizing and + understanding what is necessary to live a good life. Both Epicurians and + Stoics promote this to be living in accordance with Nature, though the + details of what exactly that is may differ slightly. However, it's a lesson + many today have foregone, instead relying too much on externals to find + solace and reward. I like how Seneca sums it, though: "He who has made a + fair compact with poverty is rich." Replace "poverty" with life, and it + still holds. Live modestly, accept your shortcomings, and you will recognize + how well off you are.